The Journey Of A Woman Scorned

The journey of a Woman Scorned

After reading Journey by Danielle Steel and watching A Woman Scorned, the Betty Broderick story.  I have to say please don’t get to a point in your life where you let hatred take over your life so bad that it could ruin your life and others.  

In  the book I read the woman was abused by her first husband. She was abused to the point that she ran for her life. She ran to a man who she thought loved her and also she thought he would be there for her. He was there for her, but not without stipulations. This woman found out 7 years later.  You know how that old saying goes that everything  that glitters is not gold. Well if  you were on the outside looking in you would have thought they had the perfect marriage. Well it  wasn’t the perfect marriage. He abused her and it was very subtle  at first. Then he showed his true colors. This man was a snake and he played her like a deck of cards. He was very charming and slowly gained her trust. What she thought was love wasn’t love at all. It  turned out to be a narcissistic jerk wanting to control, own and abuse her. This type of love  isn’t  love at all. He was building  her up for several years. Then when he had her right where he wanted her.  He  started controlling her.  This particular book took me back a little bit. I was mentally  and sometimes physically abused.     

I don’t want to make this all about me, but I went through a similar situation and this isn’t a good life to live. In my situation my husband came across real charming to my friends and family. In the home when we were all alone he  picked at me and put me down every chance he got. I could not do anything right in his eyes. I always wondered if he felt like this before he married me. This is also a form of gas lighting. They are nice  to you in front of people and never apologizing for their  behavior behind closed doors. When this happens everything is your fault. You are made to feel that you are to blame and you cannot do anything right.    

I got to the point that I just let my friends go on and on about how nice my hubby was. Knowing that it was all a lie.   It got so bad that I just let him put me down. I was very embarrassed and scared to talk about my family life. I just went on as if life was fine. Now I know better.  After months of counseling I am a better person. With Christ and counseling I am on a better path. I just want to let you ladies know there is help out there and you don’t have to suffer  in silence. As a matter of fact by the time I got the help I needed my marriage was over. I truly believe that I am better off as a divorced 48 year old woman with my life back than a scared woman who hid a lot of things.   

The crazy thing about going through the divorce I got friends back that I had not seen or spoke to in years. The  whole thing about that was my friends that are ladies felt very uncomfortable around my ex and he was coming on to them. My friends  didn’t  know how to handle what he was doing.   So they just took themselves out of my life. It was so gradual   that I didn’t even think about it much. I figured people always went down  different paths  in their lives.  So I figured they were in my life for a season or a reason. So I just adjusted without those friends.  Now I understand why they left. They told me if I  would have told you.  You  would not have  believed  us.   They are right about that because  I trust until I am given a reason not to trust.

He broke my trust all on his own and The mental and sometimes physical abuse was very hard.  So ladies and gentlemen if you can get out please do!  I stayed for my children and that isn’t a good excuse at all. In the long run you have children that could follow in your foot steps.

Also this  isn’t  a good example that you are setting for your children. I am  so glad to be single and out of that nightmare. My God has me and he will never leave me or forsake me.  

Also to the people who run their mouths and don’t understand why someone can stay please don’t put a person down for it because it is harder to leave than you know. So don’t go running your mouth when you have a friend who opens up and trust you please be a friend. I always say this, “A listening ear can very well be a running mouth.” This is why it is so hard for people to get out. They have a hard time trusting and also not knowing who is a friend. A true friend will do anything they could to help.

In the book of Proverbs it speaks of a man who sticks closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 says,

A man that hath friends must show  himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticks  closer than a brother.

So if you are in this type of lifestyle please know you can get the help you need. whatever you do please don’t suffer in silence. I don’t want to sound like a broken record but this is serious and you can live a better life.

You are worth it and you are loved. Jesus loves you unconditionally. That means no strings or stipulations. He loves you just the way you are. All you have to do is come to him in faith and trust him.

   Now moving over to a woman scorned, it is horrible what men and women will do while going through a divorce. I know there is no reason for someone to let  their anger get so out of control that you act first and think later. You should always have a way of calming yourself down. This woman was pushed to a point in her life that she did the unthinkable. Now don’t get me wrong but her husband was good to her for 16 years and he started getting the wondering eye syndrome.  It all started with his assistant.

The assistant was very pretty and barely out of high school. So of course he looked. The lust of the flesh took over and next thing you know he was leaving his wife and children. I am not going to claim I know what all happened in that house, but he did his wife so wrong. I think that is why she went off the rails. I know it is easier said than done. Control  your temper!  In the Bible it speaks of slow to speak, rath  and fast to listen. James 1:19 says,

Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;

So this is where the rubber meets the road. basically try to keep a level head. If someone takes you there please ask the Lord for help. TheLord will give you strength against your flesh. So when you are in the flesh like that please cry out to the Lord he has got you and all you have to do is trust and believe. I know it is hard to get it together when you are angry. It takes me a lot to get angry now but the Lord has helped in so many ways. Also when you are angry things come out and regret comes later after you have a chance to calm down.

The tongue is a small member but it can cut like a knife. Also found in the book of James

    3 5:6

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!

⁶ And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.

Even when watching your temper you really should watch what you say to someone. I always say it isn’t what you say to a person it is how you say it to them.

Your words can leave a impression on someones life. This is why you should be very careful because you never know what is going on with someone.

I say that to say this divorce isn’t easy and it should be handled very carefully.

You really have to think of  your children and how this will affect them for the rest of their life.

The woman in aA Woman Scorned acted first and thought later. Her actions left her children without any parents at all. No father, mother or step mom. So now children without parents and she has to live with the guilt of murder. I have to say for every action there is a reaction. If you let your hatred get out of control so bad it can get you into so much trouble.

I cannot speak for the woman in A Woman Scorned, but I will say this hatred is so heavy on the heart. It is actually easier to love than hate. I pray that mrs. Broderick got the help she needed. I know she has to be dealing with a heavy burden that the Lord can only help her through.

If you stayed with me through all of my scatter brain thoughts I thank you.

Until next time. KTF As much as I love you Jesus loves you even more.